Tom Golden has spent more than 35 years working with grief and trauma, with a particular focus on understanding the emotional lives of men and boys.
Over the years, he began noticing something important: many men were trying to heal in ways that were often misunderstood or overlooked. Men frequently processed emotion through action, problem-solving, movement, solitude, humor, work, service, and quiet forms of honoring rather than through direct emotional disclosure alone.
These observations eventually became the foundation for much of his writing and teaching, including the idea of the “masculine side of healing.”
The goal has never been to claim men are better or women are better, but simply to better understand how many men actually experience emotion, stress, grief, shame, and healing.
Tom is the author of:
- Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing
- The Way Men Heal
- Helping Mothers Be Closer to Their Sons
His first book, Swallowed by a Snake, received endorsements from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Robert Bly, Hope Edelman, and others, and helped bring broader attention to differences in how many men process grief and emotional pain.
Tom also created Webhealing.com in 1995, one of the earliest interactive grief websites on the internet and home to “A Place to Honor Grief.”
In addition to his clinical work, he has led workshops and presentations throughout the United States, Canada, Europe, and Australia, speaking about grief, trauma, men, boys, emotional processing, and relationships.
His work has been featured or discussed by media outlets including CBS Evening News, CNN, ESPN, The Washington Post, The New York Times, and others. He also appeared in the documentary The Red Pill.
This website was created as a growing repository of ideas, concepts, research summaries, and practical insights related to men, boys, emotional life, grief, healing, and human relationships.
The hope is simple:
that men might be seen more clearly, understood more accurately, and treated with greater compassion.